: Argov argues that being overly accommodating—always saying yes and sacrificing your own needs—leads to a loss of respect.

Here is a breakdown of the combined lessons from Why Men Love Bitches and Why Men Marry Bitches .

Men are often drawn to the lack of "neediness." A woman who is happy alone doesn't put the heavy burden of her entire happiness on her partner. From Dating to Diamonds: Why Men Marry "Bitches"

The initial attraction often stems from the "thrill of the chase." When a woman doesn't make a man the center of her universe, she creates a healthy level of unpredictability.

Men marry women they respect. A woman who stands her ground and demands fair treatment earns a man's long-term admiration.

: She doesn't live by someone else's standards, only her own.

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